Next weekend, we will celebrate “Mother’s Day.” It is always a difficult day for me. My sons live in Chicago, and they will probably send cards and maybe even a gift or flowers (which always make me cry), and I will talk to them on the phone, which is something we do all the time. It’s the memories of past Mother’s Days with my mom that will make the day so sad. My mom passed away in the fall of 2004, and this will be the 13th Mother’s Day I haven’t gotten to share with her.
The bond between a mother and a daughter is unbreakable. Everything I do reminds me of my mom. First of all, I look like her, so every time I look in the mirror to do my hair or makeup, my mom is looking back at me (or a heavier version of her, anyway.) I will say something and I will be flooded with the memory of my mom saying the same thing. It seems like a mother-daughter bond can be a love-hate type of relationship. As hard as I tried, I never really felt like I was never quite good enough. Even though I worked endless hours, had honor roll sons who were multi-sport athletes and had a great husband, it seemed like my mom could always find fault with me. She’d graciously point out that I was carrying too much weight, that my boys were in need of haircuts or that my house wasn’t clean enough. But, I think that those criticisms are what I miss the most.
“A mother is she who can take the place of all others, but whose place no one else can take.” Unknown
Being a mom is a full-time job, that doesn’t stop when the clock strikes 5 pm. It requires patience, love, kindness, and stamina, a lot of stamina! I remember dropping my sons off at school, going to work, working a full day, speeding to a ballgame or wrestling match hoping I didn’t miss them, driving home and making sure homework was started while I cooked dinner. I would do the dishes, and some laundry (oh the memory of those stinky workout clothes they would bring home!) I would pay bills, make sure the boys were in bed at a decent time, spend some time with my husband and fall into bed around midnight only to be up at 4:45 am to do it all again! Day after day, week after week, year after year. It was like I was on a never-ending merry-go-round. And, I loved every single moment of it!!
“Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. It is not something you do if you can squeeze in the time. It is what God gave you time for.” Neil L. Anderson
When I was in high school and my friends and I would talk about what we wanted to be when we grew up, I secretly would think to myself, “I just want to be a mom.” I never allowed myself dream that one day I would own a company. My dream job, down deep in my heart, was to be a mom. And, I am so grateful that God allowed me to achieve that dream and raise such incredible sons.
What are you doing for Mother’s Day? Are you spending the day with your mom? Will you eat lumpy pancakes lovingly prepared by your children and then spend extra time cleaning up the mess they made while preparing breakfast for you? Will you take flowers to your mother’s grave and realize how blessed you were that she was your mom? Whatever you do, take a few moments to relax and enjoy the day, take pictures with the ones you love and give thanks for all of your blessings.
Have a great week!
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